Archive for October, 2009




Foundation first, cookie later

Well, I kept Avery home from school today (to avoid the Halloween party in her classroom, which I admittedly made the mistake of avoiding earlier in the year and just didn’t know enough about to know what all was going to happen). Right or wrong, I don’t know. But I know I don’t feel guilty about it and Avery doesn’t seem to be one bit bothered by it. She was disappointed to miss out on a day of school, or rather of riding the bus with her friends, but she recovered quickly and we had a busy day of decorating their room like a castle, dressing up, preparing the candy for trick-or-treaters tomorrow and baking muffins.

She still seemed uncertain why she was staying home so we talked about Halloween some more. This time, I explained it this way … The Bible says “Everything is okay but not everything is good.” It’s kind of like eating cookies. God doesn’t say that we can’t eat cookies, but it’s not very good for us. If we have a good meal and give our body the food it needs first, we can have a cookie (like she did today after lunch). It’s okay to participate in Halloween, but it’s not good for us, spiritually. So, right now, we have decided she doesn’t need Halloween in her life.

I think that once Avery has a firm foundation in the Lord, when she can guard her heart, she will be able to participate in more aspects of the day (such as the school party), if she wants to. We’ll see.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23

“ ‘All things are lawful for me,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful for me,’ but I will not be enslaved by anything.” 1 Corinthians 6:12

1 comment October 30, 2009

Be Jesus this Halloween

I was reflecting last night more about Avery’s statement about someone dressing up as Jesus for Halloween … and it really got me thinking. God indeed wants us to be Jesus to those around us on Halloween, and every day. So, what does that look like to you? I asked Avery for some ideas today. She said (with my rewording things a bit): To help people when they are sick, to be nice to people, pray for people, and be friends with those who don’t have many friends. Definitely something to think about. Jesus didn’t worry about cultural norms, what others would think or even the Jewish law. He met people where they were, opened up dialog with them, spoke truth (in love and without condemnation!) and asked them to get to know him. How exciting to know that with God’s power and the Holy Spirit guiding us, if we only listen, are able to do that as well. Blessed day!

Add comment October 28, 2009

Not so hallowed-eve

Skeletons at the grocery store, tombstones in the neighbor’s yard, jack-o-lanterns everywhere! I am really struggling with Halloween, as I seem to every year just before the big day. The overwhelming pressure to participate in the celebrations really tests my resolve. I know I am not alone in my desire not to celebrate the holiday, but it sure seems that way! But just when I think I am ready to give in, God gives me the inspiration and encouragement to keep going.

With Avery in public school, I knew there would be some uphill battles. The other day, she came home excited to show me how to draw a witch. Unfortunately, it came unexpectedly so I panicked and over-reacted. The look on her face was heart-breaking. So, I had to backpedal a bit to reassure her she wasn’t in trouble. A few days later, she was dressing up her babies (stuffed animals) “for Halloween.” So, I suggested maybe they get dressed up for a party or a parade instead (to which she replied, btw, “Well, for a parade, I want them to be on a float so that they aren’t on the road where they could get squished.”)

But what finally brought me to tears was when I picked Avery up from her K-1st grade Sunday school class at church this weekend. There was a “haunted” maze with a plastic jack-o-lantern and spiders etc. I am completely losing this battle!

I am not, although I know you may find it hard to believe, judging those who do participate. I completely understand how much you want your children to have fun, especially if you grew up with great memories of trick-or-treating as a kid. And, it is largely a harmless event. I am just disappointed that there seem to be so few Christians who are willing to take a stand and be different (or support those who do).

There is evidence that darker practices persist on Halloween, and I fully believe in spiritual realm, a battle between good and evil. What am I teaching my kids by making light of something to be taken serious “because it’s fun”?

But because Halloween is difficult to explain without being scary, I’ve found it really hard to talk with the kids about it and why we don’t celebrate, even at these prime opportunities when single issues come up. It’s been my goal to find a way to do just that this week, however.

So, today, we talked simply about good versus evil. I reviewed our discussion about God-Jesus-Spirit in the Holy Trinity, and how those represented the “good” and holy. Halloween, I explained, is a celebration of the things that don’t please God. She interrupted me at that point and said, “I know! Someone can dress up for Halloween as Jesus!” It was the first time that I felt her making a connection with some of what I have been trying to say, which gave me some hope for the future.

The lines are still fuzzy, and that’s where the struggle begins. For now, this is where I put my foot down:

  • No purchased/planned costumes. But, I am all for imagination play and the kids can dress up any day of the year. So, if they want to put on their police uniform or Cinderella dress or tiger outfit on Oct 31, I’m fine with that.
  • No trick or treating. We try to make handing out the candy to all our friends and neighbors fun instead.
  • No jack-o-lanterns. Each fall we grow or pick pumpkins and set them on the stoop. This year, I am also planning to attempt a pumpkin pie from scratch, too, so the kids can help scoop out the pulp and seeds, and of course bake the pie. Messy and fun!
  • No Halloween parties for the kids. This is the hardest one, but I’ve broken this rule in the past and always regretted it. You can’t control how other people celebrate, and therefore, introduce your kids to those concepts.

The bottom line is I am responsible for my children and what goes in their hearts. So, in this case, I’ll continue to err on the side of caution.

“Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” I Corinthians 10:31

“ ‘All things are lawful for me,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful for me,’ but I will not be enslaved by anything.” 1 Corinthians 6:12

2 comments October 27, 2009

Fight club

I wasn’t feeling well on Saturday but we had a double birthday party that night. So, while I rested at home, my husband generously took both kids shopping for birthday presents at Target and Best Buy. Because of a leak in my car, the family car, he took his car. It has extra car seats (technically, the ones they’ve each already grown out of) so no big deal. But what it doesn’t have is a box of toys and books between the seats as the family car does. As kids do, they decided to pretend. Great idea! But Avery suddenly says: “He-ey! I wanted the Blues Clues game!” Charlie of course responded, “No! My want it.” Finally, dad had to reach back and take the imaginary toy away. lol! I couldn’t make this stuff up.

1 comment October 26, 2009

Separation anxiety

My sweet little Charlie is outgoing. He’s happy and friendly with everyone. He often waves at strangers we come across at the store or the park, and doesn’t seem to care if they even wave back. But I have noticed he’s entered a phase of separation anxiety lately. Not sure if it’s because his big sister has “left” him in favor of school or simply his total dependence on me as a parent.

The past two weeks, he has not wanted to go his Bible class at BSF. He doesn’t scream or make a fuss. I think it would be easier if he did. He simply tightens his grip around my neck, tells me quietly “I don’ want to go Bible cwass” while a single tear runs down his cheek. Breaks. my. heart. Because it’s not like him to be concerned about my leaving, it makes it difficult to make the right choice. Last week, I even stepped into the room with him, and immediately regretted it. Eventually I got away, but I know I just made it harder for both of us. At any rate, a few minutes after I leave he’s fine and I always pick up a happy little boy who tells me how much fun he had that day. So, I’m hoping it’s a phase. Either way, it’s as sad as it is “rewarding” to know that he wants to be with me. A mom can’t help but have her heart swell at a child’s desire to remain in her arms! Their little hugs, especially when they cling on with all their might, are just one of the best feelings in the world.

Puts things in a new perspective when I think about how difficult it must have been for God to turn His back on His Son on the cross, even though it was the right thing to do–His plan even. Jesus suffered a disconnect so painful that it caused Him to bleed sweat. It’s been said that the physical pain was nothing to Jesus, it was the emotional and spiritual suffering on the cross that made it such a difficult plan to execute. I never really understood that. I mean, He KNEW it was necessary. He KNEW it was for a limited time. He KNEW the outcome. He KNEW everything. And, yet, He suffered because of His separation from God the Father. Because he was completely and totally dependent on Him.

Sadly, what caused Jesus great concern is normal, everyday stuff to us. We make choices on a daily basis to separate ourselves from God without the least bit of concern. At least I do. I know I need to spend more time in prayer and in God’s Word when I can go a day and not realize that I didn’t spend time with Him! How can I be totally dependent on Him, put my trust fully in Him, if I don’t have that kind of relationship? Now that I have BSF homework, which is best accomplished in daily, bite-sized studies, it is my prayer that I spend that time to digest it one day at a time, instead of “overeating” once or twice per week. I know it’s what He wants, and it’s what my body needs.

“But if anyone obeys his word, God’s love/word is truly made complete in him. This is how we know we are in him: 6Whoever claims to live in him must walk as Jesus did.” 1 John 2:5-6

2 comments October 20, 2009

More than a pumpkin patch

9329_154160283079_552708079_2584480_5785421_n9329_154160303079_552708079_2584483_8074121_nWe had a busy weekend while my sister and her kids were visiting. Friday, we went downtown Chicago to visit Moody Bible Institute then to the SkyDeck of the Sears–ahem, I mean, Willis–Tower. The new glass ledges were pretty cool. Charlie showed no fear and Avery was very brave although she did want to hold my hand at first and said it was scary.

9329_154160423079_552708079_2584500_1355006_2But the highlight for me (other than simply hanging out with my sister, of course!) was Goebberts Pumpkin Farm in Hampshire, IL. We’ve made a habit of visiting there when they visit in the fall, but Goebberts really stepped it up a notch! They added a large tent with animals, including Bengal tigers, monkeys (including a cute little baby one!), and everything in between. But the best was the giraffes. They had a separate cage with a ramp and deck at the top so you could be face to face with the magnificent creatures. Who knew their heads were so big!?!?! Of course, it wouldn’t be a business venture without the opportunity to feed them and plenty of people took advantage of the opportunity. I was completely and thoroughly entertained by the attempts of people–young and old–to feed carrots one by one to the giraffes who would say the heck with that, bring their heads over the top of the fence, stretch down and finally literally lick the carrots right out of the plastic cups with their foot-long tongues. It was a sight to see. Not to be outdone the farm also had pumpkins, wagon rides, a corn maze or two and much much more. I definitely won’t let another year slip by without a trip to Goebberts.

Sadly, I forgot my camera downtown and although I brought my camera to the pumpkin farm, I didn’t bring the memory card! ARG. Thankfully, my sister was there to save the day so I’ve included a few of her photos and video taken with her cameraphone.

Video (on facebook) from my sister’s phone of the giraffes.

Add comment October 18, 2009

Hey, lady

My sister and her kids are visiting for a short weekend. We don’t see them often, so Charlie was having a hard time warming up, especially having just woken up from nap when they arrived. But by the time we went out for pizza, he was having a good time with his cousin who played cars with him at least. He was entertained by his aunt, too, but didn’t know her name. He kept saying “her” and pointing. I meant to correct him but was lazy I guess. Then we were making each other laugh at the restaurant and my sister said something he found funny. A few minutes later, he looked at my sister and said: “Say that again, Lady!” We all laughed, including Charlie. My sister was happy to oblige, unfortunately, nobody knew what he wanted repeated. I’m reminded once again why we call him chuckles!

1 comment October 15, 2009

Interview with Mode

I recently had the opportunity to interview Cristina Samuel from Mode cosmetics. I am not able to use her thorough responses in my most recent article for GCI magazine on makeup, unfortunately, but I wanted to share it anyway.

SM: What makes new products innovative (what’s the marketing/ingredient story)?
CS: First and foremost you have to stand-out from the crowd. It is very important that the consumer relates to the products, there has to be a real connection. Consumers want to learn and understand the story behind the product, the generic cookie cutter approach is history. A new product launch needs a differentiation in their formulary delivery approach or a new ingredient. For example, when we launched our MODE Natural Skin Mineral Powder Foundation, we were the first in the industry to formulate with cocoa. Its multiple delivery benefits include rich anti-oxidant properties for the skin, providing natural color properties which aids in pigmentation, and it has its own naturally fragrant aroma. Consumers immediately resonated with the product because they were introduced to a unique effective product with an innovative ingredient that singularly delivers multiple benefits and properties.

SM: How are new launches addressing current consumer or ingredient trends? How can makeup be marketed as a tool in the defense of skin health?
CS: The consumer’s hunger for beneficial and nutritional ingredients is only growing. Product developers and marketers are finally listening and incorporating targeted active ingredients that can work synergistically with supplements to promote skin health. For example, a topical anti-aging skin regimen with an ingestible vitamin E supplement can boost antioxidant levels that work to fight free radicals. Incorporating key ingredients with known skin health benefits on a daily basis is incredibly important to women, especially baby boomers, that specifically address the battle against aging. Marketing launches that are formulated with high concentrations of “skin defense” ingredients including retinol, hyalurolic acid, and peptides, target consumer groups that believe in taking a preventative stance in skin defense rather than addressing the issues when they have already arrived.

SM: How is the trend toward natural affecting product development?
CS: As a manufacturer and marketer of color cosmetics, MODE was established and developed by utilizing natural and organic based ingredients. The continual exploration and research of the thousands of natural ingredients readily available to us will no doubt lead to new and exciting discoveries in the future.

SM: What role does innovation play in bringing enhanced quality of product to consumers?
CS: Innovation leads to choice not only for the consumer, but for the marketer as well. More consumers are willing to purchase natural products that they feel are naturally derived and safer, while emphasizing wellness and whole body health. Developing truly effective natural alternatives to its synthetic counterparts is one way to bring innovation to the consumer. Nanotechnology has shown great promise especially in sun care protection. Titanium dioxide and zinc oxide are popular active ingredients for sun protection, because unlike its synthetic counterparts, they are natural and also provide esthetically pleasing results to the consumer. Traditional titanium dioxide and zinc oxide leaves a pasty white film on the skin which has been virtually eliminated with this new technology.

SM: How can color cosmetics products merge high-tech and natural ingredients?
CS: Merging high-tech and natural ingredients is what we are achieving with MODE, we are the originator of the concept of fusing fashion and nature to create high performing products that simultaneously deliver beneficial natural ingredients. We are consistently formulating the newest technologies with the newest natural raw materials while never compromising the fashion trends and staples consumers are demanding. A new product must perform with the high expectations and performance a consumer is used to, and if the mark is missed with the performance of the product, ultimately the consumer will move on.

SM: What’s next?
CS: No one truly knows what the next latest and greatest is going to be. As a manufacturer and marketer we research and forecast what the next hottest product might be by looking to different industries and sectors. As always, fashion heavily dictates color trends. We also look back at past trends that were proven winners in their time and have yet to be seen by a new generation of consumers.

SM: What are your thoughts on the increasingly digital world we live in and the role makeup plays in it?
CS: These are exciting times and the new digital world is still in its infancy in the larger scheme of things. Companies are taking advantage of social media as a marketing tool to promote their brands and products, including Facebook, YouTube, and the new phenomenon of Twitter. These websites allow companies to target a specific audience and demographic of consumers to introduce their brand or new product launches. Also, another new medium is the rise of beauty bloggers. However, the positive feedback can soon be outweighed by the disadvantages of using social media. For example, many of these website have a short life span and the interest wanes very quickly by its users. Also, there can be hidden agendas by individuals or groups disguised as consumers with the intent to berate and malign products and brands, which is happening more than people think Marketers should take social media for what it is, and not depending on it as the sole marketing tool for your brand.

SM: What needs are not being met/what needs to change to make the cosmetics market successful?
CS: I think that too many marketers are desperately focusing on what other marketers are doing and not concentrating on their own products and brands. This can be a double edged sword which ultimately leads to a sea of me too’s and complete lack of innovation and uniqueness. I also feel that there has been a surge of negativity within the industry in recent years which has trickled its way to the consumer, including bullying practices by marketers, and misinformation being spread regarding the safety of certain ingredients that have been proven to be safe and effective for decades. If particular ingredients have no purpose, relevance, or bearing to a marketer’s formulations, then those ingredients are suddenly “marketed” and claimed as harmful and unsafe with fear mongering tactics, rather than concentrating on why their products are great, and I truly believe this is due to insecurity and severe desperation. It’s very important to educate the consumer rather than feeding into fears that misinformation and misunderstanding causes and in turn becoming that marketing bully.

Add comment October 15, 2009

Happy 2 years!

My how time flies! Today marks the two-year anniversary of my very first blog post! So, while I am feeling uninspired as of late, it seemed appropriate to list some of my favorites over the past two years. Considering I have 393 posts, I think I was able to narrow it down to “just a few” … But don’t be shy! Let me know if I missed one of your faves!

My first post: 10/10/2007
Where are you?

Anger Management
Perfect mini-me
I am not perfect
Purpose-truth-action
Example of handling anger Biblically
Don’t waste your life
Control Freak

Motherhood/Spirituality
Simple truths
Point to the truth
First Day of K
She speaks!
Interview with a child
Playing Catch Up
Who are you?
Garbage in, garbage out
Tantrums about mittens and flip flops
Craniosynostosis: My son’s story
Mommy uniform

Wordless Wednesday
Family portrait
Like mother, like son
Little helpers
Uh, I got dirty
Little patriot
I don’ wanna Awana
Little red dress

Add comment October 10, 2009

A little perfect mini-me

Sigh. My poor daughter. She is so much like her dad but she has my … we’ll call it “passion for perfection.” She has been loving school and even is excited about the homework each day. Most of it involves coloring, cutting and pasting–right up her alley. But there’s been a few incidents where the work gets intense and it’s just too overwhelming for her. Early on, before I had a handle on how to encourage her “inventive spelling” (I mean, I am a writer afterall). With every letter, she’d ask “Is that right?” I would respond more along the lines of “If you think so!” Wrong! She would literally say “But I don’t want to write it if it’s not right.” Oops. I should have known better. And now I do, so we’ve worked that out.

She’s also really struggling with writing the number 2. When we were practicing numbers the other day, we got to 2s and she said, “I can’t.” So, I pulled out a worksheet she’d done in class a few days to show her she could. “Look at all these 2s!” I say. And her reply? “I don’t like those, they are ugly.” Oh my. Amidst a lot of squealing and whining (not so much by me, thankyouverymuch), we had a discussion about her attitude and then practiced 2s for quite a while. She finally was okay with a perfect backwards 2. lol

I guess the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. I hope my understanding of her behavior can help me to encourage her and not make it worse. Only time will tell!

1 comment October 9, 2009

What is death?

Death. Decease, demise, passing, departure. Departure. When we are physically dead, we are forever–forever–separated from the living. It’s the ultimate departure from basically everything we know. Serious stuff. Not something we like to think about. But it is inevitable. Spiritual death, an eternal separation from God, on the other hand, is even more serious.

Sometimes people find little significance in Satan’s “lie” to Eve in the garden. I mean after all, she and Adam didn’t “die” afterall, did they? Depends on your definition. They were forever separated from God physically as well as from the Tree of Life and the garden of paradise. As one friend pointed out the last time we studied this passage, how did they even know what “death” was anyway? Nobody had died before and there was no expectation of their death. But instead of being sent to the ground, they were sent away (interestingly enough, leaving the tree in tact instead of taking it away, not a bad piece of parenting advice). The way I see it, death=separation.

There is nothing we can do to fix that broken covenant. But God has made it possible to commune with Him again. When I submitted my life to Christ as a sophomore in high school, I bridged that gap (well, Jesus did, but my decision is what seals the deal for me). I have been called by speakers on two occasions recently to “remember” my past, specifically the journey to a life submitted to Christ. With the second prompting this morning at BSF, I decided I better not ignore the Spirit again (and facebook makes it so easy)! I sent a note to two people from those days who had the clearest impact in helping me develop a desire for something more, and leading me spiritually to an understanding of who Jesus is and why I am in need of Him.

It’s easy once we become Christians to forget the transition that we made to a life of Christ, and what it means. LIFE instead of DEATH. Now, with every decision we make, if we listen to the Spirit leading our lives, we can lead to others making the ultimate decision as well. Our job is to point people to Christ. It’s not about us. It’s all about Him.

“I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life.” John 5:24

1 comment October 7, 2009

Less of me to love

There’s now less of me to love. Not exactly in the way that I had in mind, however. I had my appendix removed last Wednesday. A sudden, unexpected, emergency appendectomy to close out the week. Good news is everything went smoothly and God provided much throughout the experience.

I was at a baby shower luncheon for my friend Bev who had her baby girl a few weeks ago (ironically enough, her water broke at Charlie’s birthday party). There was some, uh, interesting discussion going on, including anecdotes about using a new friend’s bathroom when the toilet overflows and other BM-related incidents. Between that and some new jeans, I thought the abdominal pain was all in my head. So, I went home and started to feel better after relaxing a bit. Unfortunately, the pain ratcheted up after dinner. I was able to sleep, but I knew when I woke up and was still have cramping and a sharp pain in the side that something must be wrong. So, after a nudge from my friend/nurse/neighbor Debbie, I made an appointment with my doctor. Unfortunately, he confirmed what I feared and sent me to the ER.

Because it was Wednesday and BSF Fellowship day, I had babysitting lined up for the afternoon. So, I took the kids home for a quick lunch, then dropped them off to play with their friend Luke while I headed to the ER. At least I knew they weren’t worried about me. They were so excited to see their friend, they ran in the house before I had a chance to even say goodbye. “Ok, I’ll see you … later.” lol

Being poked and prodded to confirm the diagnosis by myself was not fun and moved very s l o w l y (and I didn’t even think to bring a book, that is so not like me!). Matt was at work and planning to pick up the kids when he could leave. The low point was during the CAT scan when I almost threw up from the ink inserted through the IV (the second one of the day btw) AND I had to hold my breath. I suddenly became overwhelmed with a sense of loneliness and self-pity. Thankfully, it passed once I was able to breathe and get out of that cold, stinky little room.

After that, things moved quickly. Diagnosis was confirmed and I was whisked to OR prep. Thankfully, I don’t remember anything after that.

Recovery has been pretty routine. Mostly headaches, fatigue and other aches slowing me down. With two kids and now two laparoscopic procedures under my belt, I’m feeling like a pro. However, I am very thankful to supportive friends and neighbors who not only have been making us meals, but visiting, helping around the house (I got worn out watching my friend Beca clean for me on Friday!) and playing with the kids. I don’t know how I would do it without you. Thank you!

2 comments October 5, 2009

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