“The best way to provide for my family is to work, work, work.”
Our men have a desire to protect and provide. Usually, guys are so focused on this that they forget what we need is … them. I want my husband home for supper—physically and mentally. I want him to have fun with us in the evening and on the weekends and for him leave his work at work. Granted it’s great to have a house to live in, food on the table and clothes to wear. And sometimes we get caught up in the confusion of “need” versus “want” and put unnecessary pressure on our husbands, too. But I think I speak for every married woman I know when I say I would rather have my husband chasing after me than a promotion.
I am very thankful to have just such a husband. But I know some whose husbands have forgotten what follows Ephesians’ verse on submission: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her … In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.” Ephesians 5:25, 28
Now, for anyone whose husband works his butt off to just have ends meet, especially so that you can stay home, I applaud him. But if he is in it for the glory, a bigger house or a basement full of toys, my heart goes out to you. How much is too much? I guess that’s the tough question. If his work takes priority over his family, though, I hope he will someday be convicted of his distraction so that he will not miss out on his wife and kids. Maybe you can get him to watch Adam Sandler’s movie Click with you to illustrate how you feel!
“But the worries of this life, the decietfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.” Mark 4:19
See also Lies men believe #2.